So the other day I was scrolling through facebook when I saw a funny post. One of my friends from another skincare company posted a photo of some truly horrendous mom jeans with the caption “if you ever owned a pair of these, you need an eye cream.” I chuckled. Threw a like up for her ingenuity, and went on my merry way.
Through the day I saw the post in a couple of different incarnations and inside applauded all of my DS sisters putting themselves out to the world to make a living. Make no mistake, it can be a scary world for DS sellers. There have been a slew of disparaging articles lately saying that we prey on or manufacture insecurities in women. That the products are poorly made, or overpriced, and even that the businesses themselves are some kind of cult-like scam designed solely to lighten peoples wallets and leave them unhappy.
Some have even gone so far as to say that we’re being hypocritical when we claim to empower women. Because selling skincare or makeup is telling women they are not good enough as they are. I guess by that same note, dentists don’t empower me and my teeth. My teeth are fine as they are, and anyone who says I need to brush them or buy pricey toothpaste is just beating down my teeth’s self-esteem and telling me my teeth aren’t good enough.
Let me tell you what empowering women means to me:
- it means that even though I have friends in competing companies, I still go out of my way to cheer them on, celebrate their wins and support them any way I can.
- it means that if a friend asks me what I think about a DS company other than my own, I tell her everything I know. Because we all have different passions, and the world would be a dull place if everyone sold/did/promoted the same things.
- it means that if people want to wear makeup, I will help them. And if they don’t want to wear makeup, I will still help them. People’s choices are their own, and I respect what makes people feel happy and comfortable.
- It means more than makeup. I help women build self-confidence, build their skills, make new friends, and make money. I help women work less but be paid what they’re worth, regardless of education, social standing or previous experience.
- it means I will always be honest. Even if I lose out on a sale because of it. My customers are my friends, and I want them to know that they can trust what I say. I want them to know that I see them as people, not sales.
- it means that I don’t tear people down if I don’t agree with their products or point of view. You can respectfully disagree, or scroll on by. It’s no more my place to tell you what you must do with your face than it is your place to tell me what my business’s purpose is. Especially if you’ve never walked a mile in my pink heels.
- it means that just because we want to help you take good care of your skin (your largest organ), that does not mean we buy into the misogynistic ideal that women are not allowed to age, or that they are worth less because they do. It simply means we have evolved past smearing dung on our bodies to protect our skin, so let’s celebrate that fact.
One of the reasons I chose Mary Kay as my business, was their belief in the golden rule. I try every day to treat people the way I would want to be treated. And that means celebrating my friend’s wins, and being genuinely happy when they’re victorious. Because at the end of the day, we’re just people trying to make our lives better. We’re just people who want a slice of that dream of owning your own business and being your own boss. We’re just people trying to make a couple of extra dollars or enough money to stay home with our babies or be able to pay off a student loan.
We’re just humans trying to survive on this pretty blue marble. So maybe take a breath and think about how you could support a friend. But be careful, cheering other people on is highly addictive.